Why I Care About Politicians' Sex Lives

Politicians seem to always be in the news for sex scandals. Nothing is new about this. If you go back in our country's history you'll find that many of the current and former leaders of our country had sexual indiscretions that have been well documented. Oftentimes, I read threads and articles that talk about why we shouldn't judge politicians based on their sex lives because what does it have to do with their jobs as politicians? Every time I read something like this I scoff.

Let me preface my next statements with some full disclosure. I am/was/will always be a Bill Clinton fan girl. In fact, I love him so much that the one time in 12 years of being together that I've seen Ash act jealous at all was the time I was standing five feet from Bill Clinton at one of Jesse Jackson's Rainbow Push conferences. Ash stood in between us, and so I'd like to start with my Bill Clinton. We all know what he did or at least some of the things he did while he was married to our current Secretary of State, Hillary Clinton. But do we all think about how he was the President that signed the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) into law on September 21, 1996? The discriminatory law that states marriage is between a man and a woman. I know he now supports same sex marriage or marriage equality or marriage for folks in the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community and he regrets his support of DOMA, but our President was getting blow jobs from an intern while he was deciding that the "sanctity" of marriage between a man and a woman needed to be protected. Hypocrite much?

Politicians make it their business to be involved in our sex lives. And so, I think it's only right for me to be involved in theirs. How many times do you hear of a political sex scandal and think what does that have to do with their jobs? I say everything. Until the folks in Washington and the state bodies throughout our country want to give consenting adults the right to decide what happens in their own sex lives, then I plan to be judging, following and condemning their own actions in their bedrooms, hotels, cars, airports, and on and on.

Beyond the sex, politicians who lack integrity, lack integrity. It comes through in the decisions they make to support or vote for laws. While it doesn't matter, I feel comfortable commenting on all of this because I haven't nor will I ever cheat on my husband. I'm saying that. The first time I said that when Ash and I first were married, people told me I couldn't say that. I realized they meant they couldn't say that. I said I wouldn't smoke weed in 4th grade and here I am today never having smoked weed. But it doesn't matter that I wouldn't cheat on my husband because I'm not a hypocrite. I support full equality for all people. I lobby for, march for, educate others and personally give my support for marriage equality or same sex marriage and gender identity protections.

This morning, I read the allegations that the current Speaker of the House John Boehner had an affair with Lisbeth Lyons which I somehow missed in February. John Boehner is the guy who hired the super pricey lawyers to help defend DOMA. He's the one that mentioned the importance of protecting the sanctity of marriage when he decided to do that. So let me get this right, we may have to add John Boehner to the list of hyprocrite politicians that work to deny marriage rights to loving LGBT couples while simultaneously disrespecting its sanctity? Is anyone else getting sick of this?

I have a solution that I think we may find mutually beneficial. Politicians - stay out of our sex lives and we'll stay out of yours.